Aaron and I went to Key West for our 1 year wedding anniversary. It was such a blast! I have lived in Florida for 24 out of the 25 years I have been alive and I have never ONCE visited there. We were a Disney family and we always went north. ANYway, we stopped at one of the outside bar/restaurants to grab some lunch. Aaron ordered just a shrimp appetizer and I ordered the big chicken alfredo dish. Our waitress took our orders and went about her business. You know how sometimes another waiter will actually bring out the food? Well an older man came out and put the chicken alfredo in front of Aaron and the little plate of shrimp in front of me. We didn’t say anything but slowly started switching the plates. The man said “Oh wow, YOU are gonna eat all that?”. I just nervously laughed and didn’t say anything. Awk.
This is something I have battled with my whole life. I am naturally very thin, very underweight. No matter what I do I can’t seem to gain weight. People always ask “how could you complain about that?!”. Well, actually, it is very easy to when people have picked on you your whole life about your body. I became accustomed to feeling insecure about it. I come from a family that either has a big chest or a big booty. Idk wtf happened with me but that’s not the point. The point is, when people hear “body shaming” they typically, and I’m saying typically, think of people getting picked on for being heavier. I know that man and SOME other people are coming from a good place. Some people aren’t intentionally trying to hurt my feelings and I am fully aware of that. What people need to understand is that it does hurt both ways. I can’t count the times I have been told “eat a cheeseburger!” or “oh my god you’re sooooo skinny” (as if I don’t have a fucking mirror). That’s like telling someone heavier “eat a salad!” or “oh my god you are soooo fat”. You won’t hear that as often because it’s mean. But for some reason people think it’s okay to say it to someone thin. I am not saying thin people have it worse than heavier people because that is definitely not true. All I am saying is it hurts for us too. For example, those memes that say things along the lines of “meat is for men, bones are for dogs”… ? Those were made because someone’s feelings were hurt when somebody was body shaming them for being heavy. So why would you make something like that? You’re causing the same pain you felt to someone else. Does that really make people feel better? Don’t combat body shaming with more body shaming. We need to lift each other up rather than put each other down for something that some of us can’t really help.
Honestly, I don’t know why people even care so much to even make comments about it. What is the actual point of telling someone how tiny or big they are? In case they don’t have a mirror at home? Good observation? I mean, I have no idea. I shouldn’t have to worry about wearing shorts because my stick legs are gonna show and people are gonna stare (which they do). A heavier girl shouldn’t have to worry about wearing shorts because her legs are thicker. We should all be comfortable in our own skin, men and women! It’s a damn shame that a lot of us aren’t. I’m going to make it a personal goal of mine to feel more confident with my body. You should too!
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