(Before we were a couple, New Year’s Eve 2011)
I’ve always wanted to share our “love story” for the people who don’t know how we ended up together. 7 years ago, if you would have told me that, in 7 years, I would be married to Aaron with a daughter… I would have laughed in your face. We were best friends.
The night we met was pretty unforgettable. A bunch of us went to our friend Matt’s house for an “after prom” party. I didn’t attend that prom, I was getting into some other trouble that night instead. I was dropped off at Matt’s and started drinking VERY irresponsibly. I could honestly tell you that I don’t even remember Aaron being there. All I remember was puking up pizza in Matt’s toilet and his poor mother holding my hair back as I did. How embarrassing! I went into a room and decided to try and go to sleep. Aaron walked in the bedroom and asked if I was okay and if I needed water. He went to get me a trash can (in case I needed to puke again). He sat on the floor while I was in bed and we just talked all night. He respected me from day 1.
After that, we became the best of friends. We spent 2 years getting into trouble, partying, and hanging out at each other’s houses and watching movies. We both saw other people and would even ask each other for advice. Part of me felt that he had a thing for me but I wasn’t sure… until, yet another party. Long story short, he got very drunk and kissed me. I was confused and honestly, a little terrified. Did we just ruin the friendship that I valued so much? We sat and talked for a while and he confessed his feelings for me on our friend’s driveway. I just didn’t feel the same.
After all of our friends went away to different universities, we both stayed behind and went to the state college in our town. We were all each other had. So, after days and days and days being spent together… I started getting jealous that he was talking to other girls. I started craving time with him. I was so conflicted though because I kept telling myself I didn’t have feelings for him. He stayed persistent with me. He would still try to convince me that WE were meant to be together. He pushed that if it didn’t work, we could stay friends (yeah, okay). Then one night he came to my house in the middle of the night and laid on my floor while I laid in bed. Here we were again, talking all night. He came up to the bed and just kissed me. This time, I didn’t want it to end. Again, he respected me.
I gave into my feelings. I was still completely unsure and confused. I went with it. What’s not to love? Aaron is as sweet as he seems. He is GOOD. He is KIND. He is respectful to everyone around him. He doesn’t have a mean bone in his body. He is hardworking and he is a go getter. I was just so afraid of losing my best friend. But, by overcoming my fear, I gained a life partner. I gained an amazing husband. I gained an amazing father for my child.
(Aaron, Myself, Matt; who hosted that “not so memorable” prom party)
There were times when I thought we weren’t going to last. Going away to a university was highly stressful for the both of us. We moved in together when we were totally not ready to. We got through the stress and exhaustion that is college. We got through many college major changes, career changes, and environment changes. We stayed true to our friendship, which is now the ultimate foundation to our marriage.
We have since been through living back home with our parents, buying a house, struggling with infertility, a pregnancy, and a new baby. Marriage is hard. It takes a lot of work and sacrifice. I truly feel that him getting out of that dreaded “friendzone”, allowed us to have the strong marriage we have today. Without it, I’m not sure we would have made it this far. But here we are.